I've missed you.

 The way your tongue traces my lips when we kiss...I crave you.

I breathe in your scent and i don't know which is more enticing- your hands on my body, or the fact that I'm back here at all...I thought we were done doing this...but I still crave you none the less.

I stand in front of you with your hands running down my back, to my ass and down my thighs. I lean in and kiss you one more time. You say you've missed me...I confess that I've missed you too.  

You lay your head back and I kiss you again, as i feel your cock on my thigh. I can feel you getting bigger, harder, and I'm getting more excited just thinking about how good you're going to feel. I slide myself down your body until i can taste you on my tongue. 

I take you in my hand and you gasp a little gasp that sounds like you haven't been touched in too long. 

I'm running my hand over your throbbing manhood as I kiss you once again, but soft and tenderly this time, because we're not rushing anything tonight. We're together again, and we're drinking it in while we can. 

I take you into my mouth and I feel myself getting wetter as I run my tongue up and down and around the tip. I feel myself starting to ache and throb for you, but I want to take in every inch and minute of having you in my mouth. GOD you feel so good. 

I take my time with you until you sound like you're about to explode, and then I go back for another kiss, and you tell me to take off my pants. 

You climb on top and i feel you slide in. Fuck me, i want all of youuuu. You're so fucking big. your turn to have your way with me... I watch you, and feel you and try to take it all in incase this is just a dream. Everything with you feels good and tonight is no different. 

You fuck me deep and hard, and I feel so close to coming, but I want to hold off so we can come together. You tell me to move to the end of the bed, and at this point I'll do whatever you want me to. 

You bend me over, running your hands over my hips and my back and grabbing me to have your way with me. We try something new and you feel sooooo goood I think I might explode. I cant get enough of you and I want to make this last as long as possible...Just to feel wanted by you again, for just a little while...

When we're done, I don't know why you let me come over, but I'm not complaining. If I had it my way, we'd do this every chance we got. We always did fit together, like the universe knew we'd be good for each other in at least one way. You cant deny the intimacy. Fuck, I'm not about to deny you anything. Fuck baby, all you'd have to do is ask and I'll do whatever you want. I know I'm safe with you and that gets you free reign over my body. My body that craves you, and your hands touching my curves, your lips touching mine and our bodies reacting to each other. 

I can almost feel you again just thinking about it.....

To be loved like that....

 I dream of a love that feels like home. With a partner that I don't have to explain myself to. 

I dream of being loved as effortlessly as the ocean meets the sand. 

I want to be wanted by someone in the same way a fire needs oxygen to burn.

I want to be desired by a man that cant wait to run his hands down my body, or his tongue across my lips as he grabs my hips and makes me pant in anticipation.  

A man that makes me crave him when we aren't together, and ache for his body on mine when we're next to each other. 

I want a man that wants to protect me as fiercely as he wants to fuck me. A man that lets the only cries that pass my lips be those of 'Oh Goddddd' or 'Fuck me' instead of another part of my heart fracturing and falling apart. 

I want to be held in the same way that the horizon holds the sunset- delicately but devoted, held together by forces of nature that need each other to exist. 

I want to be babied on the days that are too hard to handle. I want arms I can crawl into when I want to escape a world that hurts my heart. I want forehead kisses and hands in my hair. 

I want kisses on my neck and hands on my ass, and a passion that is unapologetic in its existence. A man that can't keep his hands off of me or the curves or my breast or the hips that he grabs when he has me bent over. 

I want your tongue between my thighs and then your hand in mine when we go out. 

I want to be craved like the fucking goddess I am and protected like the little girl I never got to be.

But, at the end of the day id settle for someone just willing to stick around, because it beats being alone...because who would love someone as fractured as me?

What a confusing thing it is to be so uninhibited and so insecure at the same time...

An Ode to Brandon

 Part of me loved you the moment we met. Something about you felt so familiar I had to be next to you. I remember giving you my phone number and feeling so afraid that you were going to make fun of me for it, but you used it that next day to try and get me a job with you at a warehouse so that we'd still get to work together. 

I got to love you more and more over our 12 years and we got to do everything that lovers do without ever actually being lovers. 

We laughed with each other -we -laughed so hard we cried...sometimes we just cried. We talked for hours about our hopes, we talked about our dreams and we talked about all the ways we wanted to be loved, and the ways we wanted to love somebody back, and we let each other in. We were vulnerable with each other. We were intimate in a way that never took off our clothes , but we were completely exposed to each other. For two people who never felt safe anywhere, we knew we were safe with each other. 

I loved you for all the ways you made me feel safe, for all the ways you made me feel deserving, and all the ways I knew your love was unconditional and I didn't have to earn it or work for it. For all the ways you showed me what true love was really like.... what being loved by a man should be like.

I loved you the moment I met you and I loved you every moment of those 12 years. If loving you could bring you back, I'd have you back by now. But the irony is that loving you this much is why I lost you in the first place. 

I was lucky you were mine...

"Today I looked up how long it would take to drown..." (Forest Blakk, 2018) For the first time in my life, 5 days ago, I pondered the same thing, in a way. I pondered how much it would hurt before I felt nothing. How much would I regret it before it didn't matter any longer? Who would find me and how would I look when they did? Would I be able to do what had to be done, in order to get to the point that I wanted, where nothing hurt anymore and I wasn't letting anyone down and I wasn't responsible for anything anymore... How long would It take to drink the tea that would give me about 30 more minutes before agony set in and I finally died a really horrendous death? Just so that I didn't feel the pain I have felt every day, for 105 days of my life without you in it. And also- how poetic it could have been, to take the poison from you so that you didn't use it, and then I would have used it to see you again...I just want to see you again. I am not okay without you. 

 "Today I looked up how long it would take to drown..." it's such a simple phrase, and sort of beautiful, really. Such an elegant way to say you wanted to die today... 

5 days ago I decided I wanted to drown. But not in the way I have been drowning for 105 days, where each breath comes with memories and the sobs that come in waves, from the pit of my stomach. I wanted to cease to exist. I was tired of feeling, grieving, losing. I am still tired of feeling, grieving, losing. But I don't wish that feeling upon anyone, and certainly not my kids, or Jessica. I can stay here a little while longer, if it means that they won't know what this feeling feels like. This absolute and utter suffocation that comes in tidal waves when I think of you. And guess what- I think of you  all the time-first thing in the mornings, and I talk to you as I fall asleep at night. And you're there for every moment in between. I'm suffocating myself in an emotional suicide, slowly killing myself trying to remember you..."death is a strange and hallow inconvenience when you think about it" (Forest Blakk, 2018). 

To say that you were just a "friend" is a huge insult to the love that we had for one another. And boy did we love each other. You were my soulmate. You saw me for who I was, each and every time you saw me, and you loved me regardless. You saw me in dirty stinky clothes, and then all dolled up for a date. You told me that my "mom body and curves are where it's at, and you are just fine" in my body that I was so self conscious of. More than once you saw me red eyed and soggy from literally sobbing my eyes out over a man that I thought loved me. Now I know that the love he had may have been the best he could do, but it's not what I needed. Because he didn't love me the way you did. The way I deserved to be held and loved and seen. The way it's so easy and worth it when it's unconditional and genuine. As easy as breathing, back when breathing wasn't so painful. 

You were my person. The one soul that I could be anything around and you never ran away. You never left or got scared off and you never found a reason to stay away from me. You met me where I was literally every. single. time. for 12 years. You're woven into my soul in a way that I never noticed, until that fiber of your presence was all that I had left. 

You were my one true love. The only man that ever loved me as I was and never held that love back because of some flaws in my human condition. You never gave me any reason to wonder if I was good enough, or if I deserved it that day. You simply showed up and you loved me in the truest, most simple way. The next man that I let love me has to fill those shoes, has to make me feel the way you did, because if he doesn't, it's not enough for me. I told you once that you were my standard. You never understood that, but I did. And what a beautiful gift that is, to have such a high standard of love in my life, thanks to you. 

I will never forget you, and I will never be the same woman again, that I was on November 22nd when I left your house that night. The night that turned out to be the last time I would see your beautiful face, your smile, hold your hand or hear your voice. That woman that sat with you on that couch that night, she died with you when you finally found the blissful peace that you had been so yearning for. She ceased to exist the second your heart stopped beating. The woman that sits here and writes this is not sure who she is and she is not sure what to do with herself . She wants to scream and throw things, and pick fights so that she can yell at someone for something. Because when she's not crying, she's angry. 

She wants to love you back to life, but not the life you left behind. She wants to love you back to a life that is kind to you and supports you and loves you back the way you deserved, because you were the best goddamn man, the kindest soul, and my absolute favorite human being. I want to love you back to life because I don't know how to do this without you. I don't even know what life with you means. "I guess I always thought that we had time to get older" (Forest Blakk, 2024).. we were supposed to grow old together, and have our house with the big wrap-around porch, and our mini farm. We were going to watch the sunsets on the porch with our cheap beers, and live out our days together. It was going to be you and me...

Right now this heart hurts and yet it's numb, at the same time. I don't even know how that's possible, but apparently it fucking is. It feels nothing- no joy, no love, no desire, no laughter...no future with you in it. Which is a bitch because what I want is to smile and really mean it, and I want to laugh and play and have relationships that I can feel. Right now the only thing I feel is that this is a body that I am living in, and it feels foreign. It feels heavy and heartbroken and empty. It doesn't eat most days because it just doesn't care, and these hands want to text you a million different times because the heart in this body doesn't remember that you're gone - until it does. And it's in those moments, that I have to remember, that I loved you and you loved me, and you are finally out of pain. I will carry you in this heart, so that its not so empty, and I will forever know that "I was lucky you were mine". (Forest Blakk, 2024)

Forest Blakk. (2018, September 14). Forest Blakk - Breathe [Official Spoken Word Video] [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T3Xgx2ihf7Y

Forest Blakk. (2024, April 12). Forest Blakk - You Were Mine (Official music Video) [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NTAOiJxJJFI

Right person, wrong time.

 "I can't do us anymore. I just can't deal with James and his mom anymore" 

Some part of me knew things were going to be different when you came home from being on the road that week. The same way I could always physically feel a shift in us, when you weren't around and before you even said anything. 

I knew those words, or some variation of them were coming, and I desperately hoped I would be wrong. But in my heart, I knew the moment your name came up on my phone, that things weren't going to be the same after that. I knew in my soul somehow, that they had won, and we had lost, and that the only man I had found in a long time that made me feel valid, and loved, just couldn't do it anymore. And I went through probably a dozen things in an instant, even though it felt like all of these things became known to me at the same time- I knew that I had finally known what real love felt like. I knew that I had been able to find who I was with you, because I was safe with you. I knew that you loved me to the best of your ability while we had each other, and I knew that I was jealous of you in a way, because you got to decide to walk away from them and I couldn't. I knew I'd love you and miss you the rest of my life, because to me- you were my Saturday. I knew that being your wife one day was all I wanted, and if I got to have you, then I'd have all I needed in a partner. My life- our life- could have been something really beautiful. 

I knew that loving you was the easiest thing I had done with my life, besides loving my children, and that I have never laughed more or more genuinely, than I did with you. I knew that my life was going to be a lot more lonely after you because I couldn't imagine another man out there that would see me the way you did- the way you simply just knew how to love me in the little ways I needed to be loved. the way we would literally finish each other's sentences, and not in common words or phrases but something random and off kilter and we would both say it at the same time. I know that still, when I hear someone count 3-2-1 I smirk, because I don't have to flinch as you smack my butt anymore. But I would love it if I did. 

I miss bringing you coffee in the mornings, as you mumbled into the pillow. How we would sit there and drink our coffee together in bed, while we figured out the day and what we did or did not want to do, and what projects could we start in the yard? Is there a YouTube video for it? Does Home Depot have what we would need? Fuck it, lets just go look around. I still smile a little bit when I see the leaf blowers, or the edgers on sale or I watch husbands try to talk their wives into a new chainsaw, and i get a little sad. You never really had to talk me into it, I just liked to see you happy and if it took a chainsaw to do that, then so be it. Bringing home a power tool for you was like bringing home a new baby for someone else. 

I miss going golfing with you and your guys and watching you do something you loved so much. I miss the way you took the game seriously, but not yourself. The way you were never afraid of PDA in front of your friends and I never felt unwelcome amongst you guys. The way they said my "snack game is on point". You always made me a part of your plans, even when those plans were stupid fucking early T times and it was soggy outside. I never felt unwanted with you. 

I wish that I could know you now. The man that is healed and happy and hopefully not hating his job. I feel jilted sometimes that I had you when you were in pain all the time, at jobs that you hated, and were generally unhappy. It  makes me wonder what you're like now, how good we could have been together if you hadn't been going through two back surgeries.. I can only imagine the wrestling you could do with Gus if you were around and healed up. He would finally have a fair fight. You two would be inseparable even more so than you were before. 

I feel like I could say "I Miss you" a million times, but it doesn't capture all the ways and all the reasons I miss you. It's not something I can articulate, because there are no words for when you feel like half of your soul is out there walking the earth without you. You said once, that I am the only person that you have ever been able to be yourself around. In a selfish way I hope that's still true. But what kind of person would love you and want you to be hiding the best parts of yourself with someone new? Because I loved every goofy, childish, weird, loud thing that you did. And I wouldn't want you to change those parts of you for someone else. If they can't handle "Raul", then they need to keep walking ;) 

I get this stupid hope that you will show up at the house one day, and I can see you, hear you and hug you again. You will say that you miss me, and have missed me like I've missed you, and it wont be perfect or easy, and we don't know how to work it out, but fuck it, lets give it one more try. I know that isn't really going to happen. But I like to think that you will be thinking about me one day and pop up somehow...unlikely i know, but i think i am going to love you forever, so of course i want to see you again. We loved each other when we ended. I just wish I knew if we loved each other now. 

The little things.

 Its in the way that when I look up at you, you're smiling at me for no apparent reason.

Or the way you know how to get a smile out of me when i'm close to tears because i'm frustrated.

Morning coffee maker beeps because the coffee that you set up the night before is ready for us.

The coffee cup top offs before you pour yourself another cup. 

The simple pleasure of sitting with you on the stoop at the end of the day. 

Feeling you there whether we're in bed, or on the couch - I can reach out and touch you because you're never far from me.

Its buying different "weekend coffees" so we can try something new

Its a bunch of dog videos that tell us what we're in for....

Its watching you smile when you talk to your son....

Its how we always say 'I Love you' before we go to sleep

Our cheesy matching coffee mugs

and our fake wedding rings

Its the way you accept me in my moments when i don't feel very lovable, and you hold me anyway

Its our daily phone calls to see how each others day is going 

Its how we each pick a person and we draw each other when we all go out to dinner

Its in the smile that you gave me the night we met, that told me you were something special

and the way you plan our life years down the road..

The way James holds my hand when we’re walking out of a restaurant, or barrels into me when he can’t stop running 

Its the way that i just want to get home to you when i dont want to be anywhere at all

and the way you already know what your getting my kid for Christmas

Home

The way you tell me I’m pretty when I smile- makes me want to smile again. And the way you seem to look right through me sometimes, like you can see every corner of my essence…and then the way you sort of smirk, it makes me think that you actually can
The energy that lives in symphony with the ease that is simply ‘US’ makes me feel like my heart knows you’re some part of my home. You are like the room that I can go to and cry, all curled up in a ball, when life gets to be too much. Or the room that hears me when I laugh so hard my sides hurt and I can’t speak. The room that knows how many times I’ve laid awake at night and wondered why no one knows how to love me. You are this room that knows me inside and out and has been there without question since I first stepped foot inside. This room has seen my fantasies played out in my mind, and knows the way my body flushes with heat in response. The way I long to be touched in ways that make my back arch and my breath catch in my throat… then there are days that your room has seen me give every last ounce of me to someone else, and has been there to hold me as I slept.
I’ve sat down in defeat and anguish, and nothingness on your floor, and been a shell of myself trying to keep it together. I’ve thrown color on my face so that I don’t feel so transparent, hoping you don’t
notice. But you do. You always do. I’ve spent hours outside your walls and longed to be nestled back
inside. This room is home.

For when I am inside, I know that I am safe - really truly safe, and that if I did get hurt, it was not
because you meant to. I know that I am good enough, and maybe even more than enough sometimes. I know that when you stand as my shelter, that I will be heard, I will be seen, and I will be loved. Not the kind of love that comes with an IOU, but the kind that exists because there is not any other way to
possibly exist with this person. The kind that means “I am here, always” without question, or debts! The love just exists because I deserve it, and somehow! through some sort of magic, I don’t even question it. I don’t ask “but why?”, or say “I’m not that special”. These words have left my lips so many times before. I don’t even try to downplay these things as I lean against your walls. Instead I just feel you behind me, supporting me, loving me, and I let my guard down and I close my eyes so I can breathe you in. I thank God that he put you in my path, because as they say- “there’s no place like home”.